If you change nothing, nothing will change

If nothing changes, nothing changes…. 

Seems logical enough right? 

Yet it’s one of the biggest areas where we can get stuck as humans.

Change is uncomfortable.

Creating new standards for ourself is uncomfortable.

Saying no to others, when we’ve always said yes is uncomfortable.

Finding a way to create more money, when we’ve always defaulted to “I can’t afford it.” is uncomfortable.

Walking away from situations, circumstances, and people that you know aren’t good for you, is uncomfortable. 

Setting new goals and risking not achieving them or getting there, is uncomfortable. 

Saying yes to a course or mentor, especially when it’s a stretch financially is uncomfortable. 


Our ego/survival mind is hard wired for safety, security, and certainty. 

Change is none of those things. 

We are literally fighting with our own fearful survival mind, trying to protect us and keep us safe, when we create changes in our life.

And the most challenging part is that whilst we may WANT things to change, we can still end up sticking with what currently is, believing that it feels safe, ONLY because it feels FAMILIAR.

FAMILIAR is what has kept us stuck because it’s our comfort zone. 

Being stuck in a terrible relationship is heartbreaking, yet many don’t leave because it’s familiar, they “know how to cope with it.” Even if it’s bad, even if it’s hurting them or stifling their growth, or not what they want. 

Staying in the same job for years because you want the certainty of it, yet your heart is longing for you to really do what you want to do.

Staying in the same familiar patterns of burnout, exhaustion, resentment, over-giving, because it’s familiar because you don’t KNOW any other way to be, or it’s too uncomfortable to have difficult conversations or put those boundaries in place, or you don’t value yourself enough to invest in yourself or to find a way on HOW you could get the money together to invest, in healing your body and overcoming these painful patterns.

This is what keeps people stuck. 

The same old familiar pattern, that has actually created the situation they are experiencing in the first place, yet keeps them there, because they are unwilling to get out of their comfort zone, to change their mindset, or to take that leap. 

I get it, it takes tremendous courage. 

And to be honest, I’m forever grateful for my past husband leaving me, our values were worlds apart, we wanted totally different things and I may never have found the courage myself to leave. I just did not value or love myself enough at the time and I had all sorts of distorted beliefs about what love truly was and what I had to do in order to be loving and a “good person.”

But after that happened, I regained new life, I suddenly found a new courage a new sense of self-love that I’d never known. 

Even though I was terrified and exhilarated at the same time, learning to value and love myself enough to invest in myself was critical to creating my dream life. 

Often I would cry, I’d feel so scared that my hands would tremble, but I would find a way to say yes when I knew in my heart I had to. Even if my mind didn’t know how logically.

Life moves with you, when you take a giant leap of courage and faith to make healthy changes to your life. 

New opportunities open up. 

Years ago, I said yes to my Kinesiology training long before I had any clue, how I was going to pay for it. The following week after saying yes, my old employer rang me up and asked if I could work an extra day for her. Boom it was exactly the weekly amount I needed to pay for it. 

Stepping into the unknown is scary. 

Yet it’s what it takes to create change in our life. 

It takes deep courage, to take that leap of faith, 

To trust in ourself, 

To trust in the process, 

To trust that our life can be better, 

To trust that we have the capacity to create our dream life

And to know deep in our hearts, that we can have it all. 


The dream relationship,

The dream business, 

The dream money, 

The dream health and body, 

The dream lifestyle…. 


But it does come with a cost. 

The willingness to change…. 


If nothing changes, nothing changes. 


With Love and Blessings, 

Always in All Ways,


Sal x


One of the areas that I see holds women back the most is their sense of worth and sense of self-love. Often putting everyone else’s needs above their own and secretly deep down feeling that it’s selfish to do something for themselves or that they are not deserving enough.

Constantly abandoning themselves, for the sake of everyone else. Yet it comes at such a huge cost. 

It impacts their health, it eventually breeds resentment and anger in all relationships and it’s one of the fastest ways that we can cut our hearts desires off and end up just moving through life, instead of really thriving in a way that brings so much joy, not to just yourself but to everyone else around you. 

You loving and valuing you is the best gift you can ever give to yourself, not to mention to your kids…. 

They are watching you and modeling you every single day and will eventually end up repeating the same behaviours, unless you are willing to be the circuit breaker.

If you know it’s time for a change, if you are ready to embrace the unknown and you are committed to stepping forward and learning a new way of operating in the world, where your heart feels totally free, then I invite you to join me on our 4 Week Warrior Goddess Self-Love School!

We kick off on the 4th of January, 

In the 4 Weeks of the Self-Love Course, we will be covering:

The course will be delivered in an online format, with a daily training video and journaling prompts 5 days per week, over the 4 weeks, with a Q & A Zoom session at the end to make sure all of your questions are answered. 

You’ll have online access to me during the course to ask any questions that you have as well. 

This course will be $497 normally, however for a limited time and for an extra Chrissy present it will be $197 upfront payment or 5 x $49 Weekly payments. 

Please email me at admin@sallyholden.com.au to secure your place today. Limited spots only. 

Sal x


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