Obligation or Opportunity? You get to decide….

You have no obligation, only opportunity….

When we do something because we believe we “have to” it will build immediate resistance and resentment. 

Most people live their lives feeling obligated. 

This causes constant resentment, anger, and resistance. 

Anytime we do something from the energy of I have to, I need to, I should, I must, it’s coming from an energy of fear and pushing ourselves to do it because if we don’t we will have failed or won’t be enough in some way shape or form.

This can come from believing that the only way to get love, to fit in to belong is to behave in a particular way in order to get that. This is deeply anchored into our psyche as a child. 

Rather than doing something as an expression of who we are.

Keeping the house clean as an expression of respect and gratitude for all you have. From expressing yourself as a proud house owner, rather than “others will think badly of me if I don’t do this”, or my husband or wife will be upset if I don’t do this.

Same action, but very different energy driving it.

When we are doing things from a place of obligation, it will always drain and deplete us, because of the resentment and anger that we feel. 

When we do things as an opportunity to express who we are, through the love and joy of giving, or adding value, or making a difference in someone’s day, then it will fill you up and actually energise you. 

You will love who you are being because you are CHOOSING to express yourself through opportunities in life, rather than do things because you feel that you have to. 

It is a total game-changer.

When I’m lower in physical energy, I can sometimes drop into that “I have to” mode. 

I cannot believe how resistant I feel to doing things. 

It’s so exhausting. 


Decide to make a declaration daily on who you are and who you are choosing to be, from a place of total self-love!

Then as you move about your day, notice all the opportunities that you get to express those aspects of you, freely and with love. 

Not because you are trying to prove that you are enough, 

But BECAUSE you are ALREADY enough and you are expressing the LOVE of who you are. 


A simple way to shift this feeling of obligation is simply to ask yourself.

How do I feel when I believe the thought “I Have to?”

How would I feel without that thought?


Simple, but priceless. 

You never have an obligation to do or be anything. The moment you feel that way is the moment you step into feeling like a victim, feeling that you have no choice. 

There’s always a choice. You may not like the consequences of those other choices, but there is still a choice. 


Life is an opportunity.

It’s an opportunity to live into the truth of who we really are.

To express ourselves authentically.

To love ourselves deeply

And to see the divinity in ourselves,

And therefore, be able to see the divinity in others. 


With Love and Blessings,

Always in All Ways,


Sal xox 


The feeling of obligation for months or years will absolutely end up creating burnout. 

Coupled with feeling overly responsible, and that you could not possibly stop because otherwise you would be letting others down, keeps so many women in this relentless and heartbreaking cycle. 

Waking up with brain fog, constantly withdrawing from loved ones as you are no longer able to cope, feeling teary, resentment, anger and numbness, vacant and distant. 

Believe me, I get it. Burnout is tough on every level. 

But it’s the body’s way of finally getting you to listen. Because for years you have been ignoring your own needs and ignoring your own level of fatigue. 

It’s time to draw a line in the sand.

It’s time to overcome these patterns that have been driving you into a complete state of exhaustion. 

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